THE MORAL OF THE STORY:
Once upon a time, in a near land, very close to home, we had a tradition called bed time stories and fairy tales. There was Goldilocks and the three bears, Snow White and the seven dwarves, Rumplestilskin, , Red Riding hood, Jack and the Beanstalk, Rapunzel and many other stories. Have you ever sat down and thought what is this story teaching my child, what is the moral of this story. Here’s a quick summary:
Goldilocks and the three bears: Goldilocks breaks into the three bears home, invades their personal space, eats their food, breaks their chairs and sleeps in their beds. When she gets caught she runs away. What is the felony: Breaking and entering, stealing, getting away with it? Now there are wanted posters on all the trees, all over the woods with an identikit of Goldilocks that baby bear described to the police.
Snow white and the seven dwarves: Ever wondered why step mothers have this stigma attached to them. They have Cinderella and snow white to thank for this. Not only was the step mother performing jadoo/black magic on Snow white with poisonous apples, she was very jealous of her beauty she wanted to kill her. Snow white wasn’t the pure lily white miss sunshine she is portrayed to be. Shacking up with 7 short miners. That explains why Grumpy’s moods actually changed.He actually smiled!!
Rumplstilskin: Hard to say even harder to spell. She wanted a child, she promised him she would give him the child. She broke her promise. Who looks like the baddie in this story..
Red riding hood: Firstly why send a little one to go and deliver goods in a dangerous forest. Didn’t her mother teach her not to talk to strangers. Talking about big eyes. She definetly needs to get her eyes tested if she thought the wolf was her nanima.
Jack and the beanstalk: Magic beans, climbing up the beanstalk, stealing from the fee fi fo fum giant. Stealing his money, stealing his harp, stealing his chicken. When he catches him and wants his stuff back, he kills him by chopping the beanstalk off.
Elves and the shoemaker: Laziness, procrastination, child slavery.
Rapunzel, sleeping beauty, Cinderella, Snow White: If you ever saw damsels in distress, real drama queens, always looking for someone to save them from their horrid existences. Knight on the white horse in shining armour. Save me!!! Like the bollywood Indian movie heroines.. Bachaw.. Save me. Totally helpless.(Don’t get me started with Bollywood) I wonder if they ever lived happily ever after..
The only one I can say was a little realistic, warts, farts and all was Shrek.
Want to know where the morals have gone, why the crime is so high. Next time you are tucked in reading a book to the bichoo, ask yourself what is this story teaching them. What are we teaching the kids?
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ROTTEN APPLES AT SCHOOL: A survey was conducted at a school and the problems identified by learners included: Smoking and drugs (dagga being sold),?Begging for lunches,?Bullying by older male learners, the woman serving at tuckshop is rude, Fighting after school,?Littering Gambling, inappropriate sexual contact, kissing in public, Learners did not take responsibility for their actions. They did not attend detention when they were told to, they “bunked” lessons, talked during class, Theft of fellow learners property (stationary, jewellery, bus tickets, money). Destruction of furnitiure and walls (desks were broken). Learners carrying weapons and cellphones.?Untidy uniforms. Learners swore at prefects, disrespect to teachers. I personally heard of incidents where teachers were assaulted and hit. What is the moral of the story?
“I think we have a moral obligation to our children that can be easily summarized: number one, protect them from harm.” Tom Allen
DISCIPLINE- Jane Jarvis
Discipline should start at home. “To discipline” means to teach. It is an intervention designed to teach a new behaviour or way of thinking. “To punish” means to penalise, to cause pain, loss or suffering for a wrongdoing, or to treat in a harsh manner. Punishment does “work” in that it usually stops the misbehaviour immediately. But don’t be fooled, the long-term results of punishment are usually negative. It leads to Resentment: This is unfair. I can’t trust adults. Revenge: They are winning now but I will get even. Rebellion: I’ll do it just the opposite to prove that I don’t have to do it their way. Retreat Sneakiness: I won’t get caught next time. Reduced self-esteem: I am a bad person.
PROVIDE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT : USE THE I CARE METHOD
I Interrupt Move people or objects. Send child off in different direction.
C Cool Off Positive time out. Send child to a quiet, relaxing or calming place. Encourage them to write down their concerns or simply lie on their bed and calm down. Use time to release anger (Remember rule: You may not hurt anyone or break anything when angry). Use this time to gather your own composure.
A Affirm Convey empathy for your child’s feelings. Listening (“Tell me more about how you feel.”) Understanding (“I understand how you feel.”) Accepting (“I accept your feelings as real and valid from your point of view.”) Identifying (“I would feel that way too.”) Caring (“I wish you happiness and don’t want you to have this painful feeling.”) Desire to help (“How can I help you so that you will feel better?”) Universal empathy statement “This is a hard time for you, isn’t it?”
R Redirect Steer child in a new direction. “Fun Ideas” list is often useful here. Usually best to redirect only after the next step (Educate).
E Educate Explain in simple terms the domino effects of misbehaviour as well as the natural consequences. Try to identify the needs that your child is trying to meet through the behaviour and then teach more appropriate ways of meeting these needs. Use problem-solving approach. (Child needs to generate two or three options before acting. Encourage a STOP – THINK – ACT approach.) Also teach child to make reparation for behaviour (Sometimes saying sorry is enough!) Then redirect (see above.)
http://www.adhasa.co.za/discipline.htm
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Beef and green bean curry
INGREDIENTS:
30 ml (2 T) oil
500g stewing steak, sliced into strips
2 onions, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic, crushed
5 ml (1 t) fresh ginger
20 ml (4 t) curry powder
5 ml (1 t) turmeric
15 ml (1 T) brown sugar
5 ml (1 t) lemon juice
salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
250 ml (1 cup) hot water
2 sweet potatoes, peeled and cubed
1 can (410g) green beans (French cut), drained or fresh green beans, sliced
METHOD 1,2, 3
Heat the oil in a heavy-based saucepan and brown the meat strips. Remove from the saucepan and set aside. Fry the onions, garlic and ginger in the remaining oil until tender and fragrant. Return the meat to the saucepan and season with curry powder, turmeric, brown sugar, lemon juice, and salt and black pepper. Stir-fry for about 5 minutes. Add the water, reduce the heat and simmer for about 1-1 half hours or until the meat is nearly tender. Add the sweet potato cubes and fresh green beans (if using) and simmer for another 25 minutes or until the sweet potatoes are tender. Add the canned green beans (if using) and simmer for another 5 minutes until warmed through. Serves 6-8. http://funkymunky.co.za/curries.html
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