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Forum » Family Relationships » Siblings » Sibling Rivalry

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Author	Topic: Sibling Rivalry

Sister in-
Islam

Newbie
Posts: 1

Sibling Rivalry
on: December 6, 2010, 12:11

Salaams sisters and brothers. I am just curious, is there any jealousy or rivalry between you and your siblings? If yes, what are the reasons? Do you openly argue or is it deep-seated resentment?

Hurt

Newbie
Posts: 1

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: December 18, 2010, 02:58

My sisters husband and i were alone one day and something happened between us and he told her. They shut me out of their life since.

zee

Newbie
Posts: 10

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: December 18, 2010, 13:29

@hurt...what is this something that happened...I dont want to jump to conclusions.

steel

Newbie
Posts: 17

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: December 22, 2010, 16:16

yes there is always sibling rivalry. u get one sibling that is selfish and a drama queen that wants all the attention. always troubling the parents even though they so old. this causes lots of resentment.

scarlet

Newbie
Posts: 15

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: December 23, 2010, 03:37

Salaams! Sibling rivalry exists in every home im sure. My sister and i, although we are very close, have this deep seated tension between us that goes all the way back to our childhood...

growing up i was always the skinny one and she was chubbier. i never made fun of her, but she was very insecure nontheless. now the tables have sorta turned and i've gained weight, while shes slimmed down. her insecurities cause her to tease me relentlessly, it hurts alot but i never say anything cos shes my sister.

she also made different choices wen it came to marraige etc, as a result i could not fully express my joy at marrying the good muslim man that i did marry because she was constantly in angst over her bad choices and me showing my joy was perceived by her as me being patronising.

now she is expecting her first child and she recently informed me that she is going to name her child a name that my husband and i always loved for our future child..some may say a name is just a name but not to me and yet again im hurt but i wont say anything

COS SHES MY SISTER!

Banana Boy

Newbie
Posts: 4

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: December 23, 2010, 10:49

Quote from Hurt on December 18, 2010, 02:58
My sisters husband and i were alone one day and something happened between us and he told her. They shut me out of their life since.

This is not sibling rivalry... It sounds like a hot mess though.

spunky

Beginner
Posts: 40

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: January 6, 2011, 17:40

@hurt: not many ppl would admit to getting jiggie with their brother in law ,takes guts.
Regarding sibling rivalry, one needs to tolerate up to a point then stand for ones rights.

Ibn-
Abdullah

Beginner
Posts: 35

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: January 10, 2011, 11:29

The Japanese have a saying that roughly goes: The brothers who draw swords against each other inside the home draw swords for each other outside the home.

There used to be tons on sibling tension in my home when we were younger, but Alhamdulillah as we've matured we've grown out of it. For other families,however, some of the wounds inflicted by the swords inside the home are too deep. It is at times like those when people with good hearts like @scarlet are able to keep the family together by valuing kinship over the need to always be right. but as @spunky says..up to a point.

truthb4tea-
rs

Newbie
Posts: 7

Re: Sibling Rivalry
on: February 1, 2011, 09:59

From my own experience with a sibling who only sees happiness and triumph in my failures all I can say is you come to a point where you need to build a block where you dont allow yourfeslf to be affected by the negative comments and actions of the siblings. For muslim girls from conservative backgrounds like myself its a bit difficult to just pick up, pack up and get out to live on my own otherwise if I could thats what I would do.

And Allah knows best...