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Forum » Family Relationships » Premarital counselling » What do u think?

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Author	Topic: What do u think?

Curious

Newbie
Posts: 2

What do u think?
on: November 7, 2011, 17:12

I would like to find out people's real life experiences and opinions on getting 'involved'(potential marriage partner) with someone who has been married with a child or children? Yet the other party has not been married before nor do they have children?
Just a general Q

princess

Newbie
Posts: 23

Re: What do u think?
on: November 8, 2011, 11:59

Firstly it all depends on the future partner the child and the mother's relationship. I think if all parties are prepared to make it work and are serious about each other it can work. Also the child shud not be made to feel left out. You do get extreme cases where the guy lets his child get her way with everything which may lead to you made to feel left out and isolated. My advice would be to just evaluate the family. Spend time with him and the child and see how things work. If everyone gets along then go for it

Curious

Newbie
Posts: 2

Re: What do u think?
on: November 8, 2011, 23:53

Jazakallah for ur feedback ladies...I guess its best to make lotsa dua n see what Allah has set out and ofcourse observe his behaviour (",). I appreciate ur responses

fairymom

Pro
Posts: 114

Re: What do u think?
on: December 17, 2011, 09:38

My husband has 2 boys I knew that before marrigae the kids adored me they use to stay @ my dad before that because they said it fun. The key is to love them as ur own to see them as ur own and to treat them better then ur own, thy kids and they did nothing wrong. It not easy as some times the kids mother gets annoyed as the boys love it here with us. So she can get nasty but if u leave her alone she will leave u alone, my husband doesn't even sms her at all, my inlaws call for the kids they deal with her so yeah just depands on the agreement.